Annoying Things II

[Voodoo Lady]

Yup, yup, yup.

You want them out of your life? Stop thinking about them so much. Stop planning events around them. They want to show up to something you're at? Who the f*ck cares? They're not part of your life anymore. As contrary as it sounds, stop avoiding them, stop allowing them any space at all in your mind, and they'll go away on their own. Giving them any more thought only keeps you pinned to their drama.

And no saying, "But..." 'cause Katie and I are right. So there.

[Papa's new wife]

And no saying, "But..." 'cause Katie and I are right. So there.

*High 5s*

We are right. Why let someone else mess with your life. They smell of poo so
let them fester in their own stink, nowt to do with you.


Annoying: Headache since Friday & period pains. Joy. Painkillers take care of the period pain but mean I turn into even more of a wobbly mess.

[Son of Tubbs returns!]

I can't even be bothered to think about the situation with them let alone comment, I'm that fed up with it!

Hope you're feeling a bit more chipper soon Kate...

[Papa's new wife]

I am drinking Bailey's and I have free ice cream cos I did a survey about ice cream and they sent me some to try. YAY!
I also have Saturday off work to celebrate Sarah's birthday whoooooooooooooo!

So thank you, I am feeling better today (still on the brain messing pain killers but hey ho. Lets mix them with Bailey's to make my evening even more yay ).

[Voodoo Lady]

I used to be very black and white in my teens and early twenties; then I learned that there is no such thing. Everyone's point of view is valid, as long as it's not hurting someone else, imo. I have practiced and made it a point, whenever possible, to not be haughty, unswervingly opinionated, or angry because people disagree with me, as I was wont to be in my youth. I don't always succeed, maybe even not often, but I do try. Tonight, someone hit a nerve in a way I wasn't prepared for, and I reached a level of livid I've not felt in a long time. Years, actually. I don't know quite what to do with it, hence my posting here. In fact, I started writing this in NAFF, just to vent it, but that felt somehow inappropriate.

A former coworker and Facebook friend posted about someone they knew of who had committed suicide, saying they didn't think it was a tragedy, as the person was in so-called "perfect health" and was fully in control of their actions. This crushed me to the core. I have known SO many people in the past four or five years who have attempted suicide, most of them successfully. I will admit (not to scare anyone, but to lend validity to my perspective, I suppose), I have thought about it myself quite a bit in my lifetime. I'm not proud of it, and it's certainly not something to be glib about. I have a really difficult time believing that anyone who chooses to go that route is in perfect health. I believe they need help. I believe that anyone who feels despair on such a deep level that they feel there is nothing in their life, not one single thing, worth living for deserves our sympathy and, wherever possible, our assistance. To shrug one's shoulders at the loss of a life, at a father who has been tragically ripped away from his wife and children, is.... I honestly don't have the words right now, but if I did, they would be very much the opposite of happy.

But all of this is bigger than I can express to this FB "friend", someone I hardly know, without feeling like I sound bitter, preachy, judgmental.... So I'm putting it here, as much to vent it as for any other reason. Life is precious, and loss of life is tragic, whatever the circumstances. Heh, so sayeth I, in my preachiest, bitchiest, most "black and white" fashion.

[Papa's new wife]

*Hugs*
I agree with your Sheila. I too have had times where I have thought very hard about it and been that sad with myself and my life that I couldn't see anything about it that would keep me going.

To try to express yourself on Facebook is so hard, people misinterpret so much. Tone of voice and everything is missed. I don't think there is anything that you could put that would satisfy you, it will never be nearly as effective as talking in person to someone.

[Son of Tubbs returns!]

I think what this person said was so unfeeling and glib. You were so right to be annoyed or whatever.No one can judge what anyone else thinks.Nobody KNOWS how somebody else feels. What may look to you like a wonderful life may well not be, we don't know what's going on underneath. What may seem a trivial problem to others, could be a major one to the said person. Of course it's a tragedy if that's the only way out of their life and what they feel is their best option.That anyone is driven to that is just so sad.

I think it also shows what a lack of feeling, empathy and understanding of the human condition the person who said this wasn't a tragedy lacks.

Makes you despair really.Though I've always assume it's something everyone thinks about when at their blackest? Maybe not?

[Voodoo Lady]

=huuuuuuuuuge hugs to both of you!=

THIS is why I love you guys. You get it.

Paul, I truly believe that yes, most people have at least considered it, if only briefly in an unconnnected "what if?" sense. I don't know that everyone has seriously contemplated it, but I'll bet the number of those who have would be high enough to shock just about anyone. I also believe that with our modern, interconnected society, the idea of it is closer than it ever used to be. It's no longer happening to faceless, nameless people three counties over or tragic heroines in novels. It's happening to people we know via the internet or through friends. We hear about it on the news, we read about it everywhere. And I believe that by seeing it so much more, it takes up more space in our brains, and seems like a more viable option than it might have 100 years ago.

I believe this is why there are so many childeren, some as young as 5, taking their own lives. When we were that age, did we even know what suicide was? I sure didn't! Kids today are exposed to the idea, where they might have been protected from it in bygone days, and they think of it as an out, not understanding all of the implications. In some ways, I feel like suicide has become, for younger children, the new "running away".

Not that that has much to do with what I posted above; just something I've been thinking about here and there lately.

=moar hugs=

[Son of Tubbs returns!]

I don't know if you remember but I said a while back that we were having to have a new online menu planning system at work, which would allow for the whole company to have identical food and deliver the GDA for a dish? Well, I had a preview of it today and it's awful. It literally tells you what sauce in what jar to buy and to add to meat. Everything is bought in done. I know it sounds silly but I'm SO upset about this. I didn't spend 3 years classical french cookery training and 20 years experience to be busted down to the level of a trained monkey.

[Voodoo Lady]

That doesn't sound the least bit silly! What a waste of skill and experience! Not only that, but precooked is rarely healthier and often more expensive in the long run. This is a sad truth we are only starting to really discover in the US. Your company is starting down a well-traveled and very sneakily perilous path. It actually makes my heart sink to think that while so many are campaigning so hard to move forward toward real, healthy food, some are working just as hard to go backward.

[Son of Tubbs returns!]

That doesn't sound the least bit silly! What a waste of skill and experience! Not only that, but precooked is rarely healthier and often more expensive in the long run. This is a sad truth we are only starting to really discover in the US. Your company is starting down a well-traveled and very sneakily perilous path. It actually makes my heart sink to think that while so many are campaigning so hard to move forward toward real, healthy food, some are working just as hard to go backward.

Trouble is, we're a big company and money, profit, gimmicks, branding and corporate awards rule. I've said before, cooking now occupies 10% of my day. Discovered today my title has changed.I'm now longer a Chef Manager, I'm the Food Services Manager now.It feels me with sadness that I used to plan all menus, which I will still do, but will be told how to cook it and won't be allowed to put dishes that I've made up, that my customers quite like. We even have to make salad to a recipe. I feel creatively held back, demoralized and that every bit of pleasure has been wrung out of the job. By far the most pleasurable thing is/was coming up with new creations and experimenting. So if there's a dish I do and it's not in the recipe pool,I can't do it.

More than anything else, I feel insulted, de-skilled and worthless. I'm not good at much, but I'm good at my job and even that's being taken away from me.

[Cheeky Chezzy Woo]

Not annoying, just sad. I have no lost my other nan. She passed away yesterday, 5 months after losing my other nan a week before Christmas. I am so glad i managed to go see her 3 weeks ago. Horrible thing was, after i got home from seeing her, she had been admitted into A&E and has been looked after until yesterday. I also lost my great uncle who's funeral i went to earlier this week too.

[Son of Tubbs returns!]

So sorry to hear this Chez, thinking of you *hugs*

[Cheeky Chezzy Woo]

thanks hun x

[Son of Tubbs returns!]

Right.New online menu planning system has kicked in.Bear in mind if it's not on there I not allowed to do it do it.

No Fruit Cake- They love fruit Cake.
No Mixed Grill.
No Gammon Steak with Pineapple (only Egg)
No Balti Curry at all.
No Korma Curry at all.
No Pie you can make. All bought in.
Recipe for Braised Beef is using diced beef. WTF?! Everyone knows you use Steak or Sliced Chuck.
All soup powdered.

I'm just not interested in serving up rubbish.

Maybe I should just slop it out and take the money.